Halloween

What was James for Halloween this year? If you read my last post, you got a little sneak peak, but before I show you the full costume, let’s take a look back at his previous Halloween costumes.

 

Five‑panel collage showing James in different costumes from 2009 to 2013, including a Tigger outfit, a monkey costume, a Grease-themed costume with his mom, a blue star‑covered superhero cape with a red “J,” and a playful green‑and‑red outfit holding a tool box.
2009: Tigger; 2010: Monkey; 2011: A greaser; 2012: Super James; 2013: Handy James

 

This year he was a doctor. His one-on-one nurse at school had given Stacy a pair of her old scrubs, which Stacy then modified to make them more James’ size:

 

Set of blue medical scrubs laid out on a wooden table with colorful thread spools and a package of Poly‑Fil in the background, creating a sewing and crafting workspace scene.
Scrubs for James’ Halloween costume

 

She even managed to make a cap out of the left-over fabric. Add a stethoscope and a name badge, and I introduce you to Dr. James :

 

Three‑photo collage of James in blue scrubs, surgical cap, gloves, and a face mask sitting in a wheelchair with a stethoscope and ID badge, including scenes of two adults helping him “treat” a toy bear and a colorful therapy‑room setup with medical‑play toys.
Dr. James

 

Stacy even bought her own scrubs and became Dr. James’ nurse/assistant for the day. She is in the solid black top in the upper righthand picture above. James’ one-on-one nurse is on the left.

Back at home, Stacy and James decorated a pumpkin to display in front of our house. They painted it purple for Epilepsy and added a green ribbon for cerebral palsy.

 

James seated at a wooden table with a blue neck pillow, looking toward a large pumpkin painted bright purple, with a paintbrush resting nearby in a cozy indoor setting.
Purple pumpkin

 

Hand holding a purple‑painted pumpkin decorated with a green awareness ribbon and handwritten messages supporting epilepsy and cerebral palsy awareness, resting on a white surface with a laptop in the background.
Epilepsy Purple Power

 

Hand holding a purple‑painted pumpkin with a green ribbon labeled “Cerebral Palsy Awareness” and the name “JAMES” written in bold black letters, resting on a wooden table.
James

 

Epilepsy Awareness Month

Handmade wreath of fluffy purple and white tulle hanging on a glass‑paneled door, finished with a small purple bow at the bottom.
Epilepsy Awareness Wreath

 

November is Epilepsy Awareness Month. Stacy made the wreath in the above picture for one of her Stacy Rae Creations customers to display on their front door for the month.

Unfortunately, epilepsy is something that we have been battling with as a family since James was in the NICU. Of all James’ medical issues—the cerebral palsy, the tube feeding, the vision and hearing issues, the epilepsy—epilepsy is the one thing that we really wish we could cure him of. And believe me we have tried.

Shortly after he came home from the NICU, he was diagnosed with infantile spasms (IS), which is a form of epilepsy. We tried the ACTH injections, which is supposed to be the best treatment for IS and which were so expensive that we had to fight with our insurance company to get them to pay for them. Unfortunately, they didn’t work.

I think we’ve tried every antiseizure med—and combination of meds—there is. We’ve tried the ketogenic diet. Some things seemed to work, but right when we thought we found a cure to his seizures, they came roaring back.

Here is a picture of James from his first 36-hour video EEG (VEEG) in May of 2012. This was taken right after they had put all of the electrodes on his head and before they wrapped his head with gauze to help keep the electrodes in place.

 

James lying on a hospital bed wearing a green shirt and dark pants with a guitar pattern, with scalp EEG electrodes and wires attached for neurological monitoring, surrounded by white towels and medical equipment in a hospital setting.
First VEEG May 2012

 

During that VEEG, they noticed some crazy spikes and decided to drug him to calm his brain down. He was in a drug haze for three days after that.

We’ve gone so far as to talk with a few doctors and surgeons about the possibility of brain surgery to remove the part of the brain that the seizures are coming from. Unfortunately, the tests showed that they were coming from all over the brain, so surgery was not an option.

We really started to think that was it. We tried everything we could. The only other option we saw was packing up and moving to Colorado to see if medical marijuana would finally cure him of these damn things. But that would mean leaving our families, friends, and all of James’ doctors behind.

Then we found out about Vagus Nerve Stimulation (VNS) and how it has shown some pretty positive results at controlling or eliminating seizures. We decided to go for it and in September of 2012 he went in for surgery to have it put in. To find out more about the VNS and the surgery, please read the VNS Surgery post.

We really thought the VNS was the cure we spent so long looking for. It really did get his seizures under control. They weren’t totally gone, but they were a lot more manageable than they had been prior. Stacy and I were struggling to remember the last time we saw James having a seizure.

Something changed recently, though. We’re not sure what is going on, but this past month or so has been pretty bad. Here is a video that we took on Thursday. During his seizures, his right hand goes up by his head, his left arm goes out to the side, and he arches his back.

 

 

While the VNS normally does a good job on its own, it also comes with a magnet that we can use to force the VNS to give James’ brain a little extra pulse that will stop a seizure. We chose not to use the magnet while filming the above video because we wanted to show the neurologist how bad they have gotten.

I guess this is just a really long-winded way of saying that we hate epilepsy. Because this is Epilepsy Awareness Month, I want to encourage you to check out The Epilepsy Foundation’s website and learn more about it. And please say a prayer for James, and anyone you know that suffers from this horrible disorder.

UPDATE: James is scheduled to have a home and school VEEG from December 2nd to the 4th. Hopefully we will be able to figure out what is going on in his brain and what our next steps will be.

 

School

We got James’ school pictures in the mail about two weeks ago, and we weren’t too happy with how they turned out.

 

Hand holding two printed school portraits of James in a red‑blue‑and‑white plaid shirt, seated in front of an outdoor backdrop with autumn trees, dated 2014–15, with additional photo strips and materials underneath.
School picture

 

His head tends to turn to the left and rest against the headrest on his wheelchair. Instead of turning the wheelchair so that he was facing the camera, we think they tried to just turn his head and ended up propping his ear against the headrest.

Yes, he is looking towards the camera, but look at his left ear! If I was a professional photographer, I would not have found this acceptable, would you? Fortunately, he was able to retake his pictures this week. Hopefully these will turn out better.

I love the fact that include James in many of the activities he can’t normally do. The picture below from gym class is a good example. James obviously can’t crawl through the tunnel on the floor, so to help him experience what it’s like to be in the tunnel, they put it over his head.

Side‑by‑side photos of James seated in a wheelchair, comfortably enclosed in a spiraled blue sensory wrap, with one image showing a hand holding the fabric and the other focusing on the child’s face and upper body.
In the tunnel

 

Wedding

We took a little trip out of town for a wedding from Thursday to Saturday. The wedding was on Friday night, which worked out well for us because one of James’ cousins was having a birthday party on Saturday. We clean up pretty well, don’t we?

 

Jeff and Stacy dressed in formal attire sit on either side of James seated in a stroller wearing a white shirt, purple tie, and black pants, posed indoors against patterned wallpaper and a curtain.
Such a nice looking family

 

I am still madly in love with Stacy. It’s been a rough road these past few years, but there is nobody I’d rather be on this journey with.

 

Jeff and Stacy dressed formally share a close dance, with Jeff dipping Stacy backward as they kiss, framed by floral wallpaper and warm wood trim.